Flip the Script: Affiliate Culture & The Many Faces of Influence
Welcome back to The Confetti Chronicle and our Flip the Script series—where we take a closer look at the habits, mindsets, and systems shaping the card making industry.
In this post, we’re shifting the focus to something simple—but often overlooked:
How we shop… and how that impacts who gets supported.
I’ve been part of this industry for over 15 years—as a consumer, a design team member, an influencer, and now as a brand owner. That perspective has given me a front-row seat to how this system works… and where it quietly starts to shift.
Let’s Start With the Basics
Most of us are familiar with affiliate links, even if we don’t think about them often.
At their core, they’re simple:
- A creator shares a product
- You purchase through their link
- They earn a small commission
The goal is to reward the person who inspired the purchase.
That’s the intention behind the system.
The Way We Shop Has Changed
But here’s where things get interesting.
We don’t always shop in the moment anymore.
Instead, we:
- Save posts
- Screenshot ideas
- Mentally note products we want
And then… we come back later.
When we’re ready to buy, we’re no longer in that original moment of inspiration.
The Habit Most People Don’t Think About
So what happens next?
We default.
We:
- Click a saved link
- Head to a favorite creator’s page
- Use a familiar code
Not because we’re trying to take away from anyone.
But because it’s easy.
It’s familiar.
It’s what we’ve always done.
A Real-World Example
You’re scrolling and come across a beautiful card.
It stops you.
You save it.
You think:
“I need that stamp set.”
Later, when you’re ready to shop, you don’t go back to that post.
Instead, you click a bookmarked link from a creator you follow regularly.
The purchase gets made.
The product gets used.
But the person who sparked that initial inspiration?
They’re no longer part of that transaction.
It’s Not Intentional—But It Matters
Nothing about that situation feels wrong.
There’s no bad intention.
But it does change something important:
The person who inspired the purchase isn’t always the one being supported.
And when this happens over and over again, it quietly reshapes who benefits in this space.
Where This Habit Comes From
We see it encouraged all the time:
“Bookmark my link...”
"All my links are listed on my shop page."
And let’s be honest about what that really means:
“When you’re ready to buy—shop through my links.”
On the surface, it’s helpful.
And in many ways, it is.
But it also reinforces a shift from:
Inspiration-based support
to:Habit-based shopping
A Closer Look at the Consumer
Now let’s pause for a second.
If you’re a consumer, there are valid reasons you may not use affiliate links at all.
Some people:
- Don’t trust affiliate systems
- Prefer to shop directly
And that’s completely fair.
Your dollar is yours. Your spending choices are yours. Always.
But if you do use affiliate links, there’s a simple question worth asking:
Who inspired this purchase in the first place?
No Judgment—Just Awareness
This isn’t about telling anyone how to shop.
It’s about awareness.
Because small habits—done over time—create bigger patterns.
And those patterns determine:
- Who grows
- Who gets seen
- Who continues creating
It’s Not Just on the Consumer
At the same time, this isn’t a one-sided conversation.
This is an industry that often says:
- “There’s room for everyone”
- “Kindness matters”
- “Support other creators”
And those are important messages.
But it’s worth asking:
Do our actions always reflect those words?
Because encouraging followers to always shop through you doesn’t always align with that mindset.
A Simple Shift
This doesn’t require a big change.
Just a small one.
Pause before you purchase.
Ask yourself:
Where did this idea come from?
And if possible—support that source.
Flip the Script 🖤
What if we shifted from:
Habit-based shopping
to:
Intention-based support
Because when you flip that perspective:
You don’t just make a purchase—you decide who that purchase supports.
A Simple Way to Support Creators
If this all feels a little bigger than you expected, here’s the good news:
Supporting creators doesn’t have to be complicated.
There are simple, meaningful ways to support all creators in this space:
- Leave a comment on their post
- Share their work with others
- Save their content for later inspiration
And if you’re someone who prefers to shop directly instead of using affiliate links?
That’s completely okay.
But here’s something small that goes a long way:
Let the original creator know they inspired your purchase.
A quick comment like:
- “I bought this because of your project!”
- “You inspired me to grab this set!”
That kind of feedback matters more than you might think.
It:
- Encourages creators to keep going
- Validates their work
- Connects inspiration back to the source—even without a link
Let’s Talk About It 👇
- Do you tend to shop through a favorite creator out of habit?
- Do you go back to the original source of inspiration?
- Have you ever thought about how that choice impacts creators?
There’s no right or wrong here—just something to think about.
Drop your thoughts in the comments. I’d love to hear your perspective.
What’s Next
Next up in Flip the Script:
Why creators compare themselves—and what’s really driving it.
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Comments (6)
Another great article, Lisa…Spot on! I never paid much attention before my own “linking”/affiliate experience began. But, I certainly do now. I have, by nature, always supported others by your suggested means, now using links, as well! If, I love the art or feel inspired by someone- I wish them to know it, feel appreciated & financially supported! I love small businesses & I always hope they love me back LOL- I hope more people read your fine, thought provoking writings. Remembering the roots of this art/creative therapy & supportive community is important! Wisdom is knowing how to remain in the place of enjoying it- if it becomes “work, w/o joy” it’s shifted- time to shift it back. I personally am loving the privilege I have to work with some equally supportive, and super talented peeps, but I gauge and reevaluate to make sure I’m where I wish to be and question “am I staying true to all I value- keeping integrity & sincerity with every step?”. C.Heye 👋🏻
I think you touched on something important that doesn’t get said enough: awareness changes everything. Once you’ve had your own experience with linking and affiliates, you start to see the ecosystem differently—the good parts and the parts that need more intention.
Supporting others on purpose—whether that’s through kind words, using links, or simply acknowledging inspiration—is what keeps this community healthy. And you’re right, it shouldn’t feel transactional at its core. When it starts to feel like work without joy, that’s usually the signal that something needs to be recalibrated.
I also appreciate you calling out integrity. That internal check-in—“am I still aligned with what I value?”—is something more people in this space could benefit from. It’s easy to get pulled in different directions, especially when there are so many voices, products, and expectations.
And I’ll
Thanks for this perspective!!!
GREAT article and spot on! We all save a post that inspires us and then shop later forgetting about the original person who inspires us. I try to make a habit of telling shops (especially Etsy shops that may not be giving an affiliate link) where I got the inspiration to purchase a digi download and at the same time I try to give credit after creating a card using that download to the person who inspired me. Do I always, no but I try.
I think this is a great reminder to use or acknowledge those creators that do influence or inspire us to create.
Kimberly B.
Taking that extra step to say “hey, you inspired this”—whether it’s to a shop or back to the original creator—goes a lot further than most people realize. It helps connect the dots that often get lost between inspiration and purchase.
And you’re right… none of us do it 100% of the time. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about being intentional more often than not.
Really appreciate you sharing this perspective—it’s exactly the kind of awareness that helps shift things in a positive direction.
[REPLY_TO:139114053862:Christine Heye:DEPTH:1] Thank you so much for this—there’s a lot of honesty and awareness in what you shared, and it really matters.
I think you touched on something important that doesn’t get said enough: awareness changes everything. Once you’ve had your own experience with linking and affiliates, you start to see the ecosystem differently—the good parts and the parts that need more intention.
Supporting others on purpose—whether that’s through kind words, using links, or simply acknowledging inspiration—is what keeps this community healthy. And you’re right, it shouldn’t feel transactional at its core. When it starts to feel like work without joy, that’s usually the signal that something needs to be recalibrated.
I also appreciate you calling out integrity. That internal check-in—“am I still aligned with what I value?”—is something more people in this space could benefit from. It’s easy to get pulled in different directions, especially when there are so many voices, products, and expectations.
And I’ll
Another great article, Lisa…Spot on! I never paid much attention before my own “linking”/affiliate experience began. But, I certainly do now. I have, by nature, always supported others by your suggested means, now using links, as well! If, I love the art or feel inspired by someone- I wish them to know it, feel appreciated & financially supported! I love small businesses & I always hope they love me back LOL- I hope more people read your fine, thought provoking writings. Remembering the roots of this art/creative therapy & supportive community is important! Wisdom is knowing how to remain in the place of enjoying it- if it becomes “work, w/o joy” it’s shifted- time to shift it back. I personally am loving the privilege I have to work with some equally supportive, and super talented peeps, but I gauge and reevaluate to make sure I’m where I wish to be and question “am I staying true to all I value- keeping integrity & sincerity with every step?”. C.Heye 👋🏻
[REPLY_TO:139101077734:Kimberly B.:DEPTH:1] That’s such a thoughtful approach—and honestly, it’s one of the most meaningful ways to support creators.
Taking that extra step to say “hey, you inspired this”—whether it’s to a shop or back to the original creator—goes a lot further than most people realize. It helps connect the dots that often get lost between inspiration and purchase.
And you’re right… none of us do it 100% of the time. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about being intentional more often than not.
Really appreciate you sharing this perspective—it’s exactly the kind of awareness that helps shift things in a positive direction.
[REPLY_TO:139101569254:Miriam Leech:DEPTH:1] Thanks for taking the time to read it! We appreciate it!
Thanks for this perspective!!!
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